and on and on

Well, it's not over until the fat lady sings - or splits a gut!!

The nemisis WENT AHEAD AND INSTRUCTED A GUITAR PLAYER TO SHOW UP.....this in spite of the fact that the instructor said no, it's too late in the game.

She, nemisis, sent an email saying that "the class" had decided on a guitar player and she had arranged for him to show up tonight. I answered, of course, I wasn't in the class when that was decided and I wasn't going to pay for it. Plus, it's too late in the game to add him.

Well, boy did I get an email back. Vitriol on the half shell. Reviewing and rehashing all our conflicts she has decided that I'm a dependably negative person.
Overlooking of course, that that means I don't want to go along with her decisions about MY class. She pointed out that since I'm not singing anything, I don't have any say about the guitarist.

I answered - probably shouldn't have - as reasonably and not too sarcastically (I thought) that I don't have any singing parts because she grabbed them all - and besides I like to sing with others, not solo (which she insists she should do) but Morey thought it was, sarcastic that is. Now the instructor has sent another email saying:

NO, it's too late and I've cancelled the guitarist......I think, even she has had enough. Six days to go - two more rehearsals - one tonight and another on Thursday.
I don't think I have enough Valium.

I wouldn't want to get too comfortable though - six days is more than enough for nemisis to think of a few more things to add, change, or debate on.

I'm dreading tonight's rehearsal. I'm not, by nature, combative or confrontive - I dislike it actually. But I felt I had to speak up as no-one else was stopping this locomotive of a woman - and not the teacher either (for which I really hold her responsible for a lot of this). Is this what happens when tyrants or bullies rule?
People are afraid to speak up - or they join them so they'll be on the "safe" side?
If no-one says anything, who do we have to blame when it turns out to be "X's Bat Mitzvah with backup singers".....?

What I have learned....I'll fight for what I believe if I'm pushed hard enough.
It costs me nervous stomach, irritable bowel, high blood pressure. 12 step programs are not helpful as they say "Pray for her, she's a sick person and you would not be mad at a sick person." But where does that leave me? Accepting the domination and bullying of this individual? Sick as she may be - it's my Bat Mitzvah too.

Oh well, it's good we are wearing a lot of white - the blood will show up well on it.